Being Compassionate in Islam


And of His signs is that He created for you mates from your own selves that you may take comfort in them, and He ordained affection and mercy between you. There are indeed signs in that for a people who reflect”(30: 21).


One of the main objectives of marriage from the Islamic point of view is for the couples to find peacefulness. Peace is the very result of considering Allah in mind in every second of life. Being compassionate is a skill that couples should develop in order to make a better life. Islam aims to teach this skill to its followers and all other human beings.


Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said: “when a man expresses his love to his wife, the effect of such loving words will never fade from her heart”.


These words were uttered by the Holy Prophet (PBUH) in a society in which women were not considered to deserve the least human rights. Moreover, it shows that Islam believes in the importance of expressing feelings to strengthen couples’ relationship and the idea of being compassionate.


Our fourth Imam, Imam Sajjad (AS), said: “It is your wife’s right on you to know that she brings calmness to you and she is a gift from Allah. Then, cherish her and treat her with kindness and tolerance”.


These sayings show the special attention of Islamic leaders to family and its role in the formation of the society. It can be concluded that regarding the issue of being compassionate, building a peaceful society depends on having healthy and competent families.


Being compassionate


The motto of Islam is, “First build your personality, then your family and finally your society”.


Imam Sadiq (AS) said: “The more one increases his/her kindness to his/her spouse, the more his/her faith will increase”.


What is the belief behind this large amount of recommendations on being kind and expressing feelings? How can Islam be blamed for promoting violence?


Being Compassionate & Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)


To finish this article, It would be interesting to narrate a short story from the early Islamic era:


Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) ennobled one of his loyal companions, named Sa'dIbnMa'az, in his funeral. Watching this scene, his mother said: “Oh my son, enjoy heaven”. Prophet (PBUH) said to Sa'd’s mother: “Do not prejudge. Your son is suffering in his tomb”. Other companions asked in wonder, “why is he suffering in his tomb while you respected and ennobled him this much? He added because he was bad-tempered with his family.


Allah is Unique in Kindness. Kindness is a sign of wealth for which you sometimes do not need to spend a penny, but it is more valuable than large amounts of money.

Being compassionate