Family in Islam

A family is not only a place for reproduction but also a site for growing the healthy spirit and character of human beings. To clarify this point, some principles are mentioned below which are derived from the verses of Quran:


1. Having amity and mercy within the family and providing security and peace for each other. This verse refers to family and its spiritual relations: “And of His signs is that He created for you mates from your own selves that you may take comfort in them, and He ordained affection and mercy between you. There are indeed signs in that for a people who reflect” (30:21).


2. Consultation and satisfaction of the couple in decision making [1].


3. In verse 71 of Al-Tawbah, men and women are introduced as each other’s friends and helpmates. In these verses, the importance of consultation is notified, and it is also mentioned that the viewpoints of all the family members are of equal value and no one’s approach receives more importance than the other’s [2].


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4. The importance of family’s interests over personal interests [3].


5. Improving affairs and seeking reconciliation [4].


6. Forgiving each other’s mistakes, establishing peace and amour and avoiding egocentricity: “If a woman fears from her husband misconduct or desertion, there is no sin upon the couple if they reach a reconciliation between themselves; and reconcilement is better. The souls are prone to greed; but if you are virtuous and God wary, Allah is indeed well aware of what you do” (4:128).


7. Being good-tempered in etiquette and commerce: “deal kindly with them” (4:19).


The principles mentioned above indicate that the style Islam suggests for families is achievable through a true collaboration of all family members. Every family is a small part whose rectification contributes to the improvement of the whole society and consequently its perfection.

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[1] (2:233)

[2] (9:71, 28:26, 28, and 37:102,103)

[3] (2:229, 4:19)

[4] (8:1)