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Submitted by anonymous (not verified)
Fri, 06/23/2017 - 18:08
I am a Muslim male and my Girlfriend is Chritian. She became my girlfriend at the time of me being astray of Islam and off my deen. I am a changed person and i am practising Islam (technically i know that i cant say that im practising Islam and have a girlfriend at the same time. I pray quite often, i refrain from such acts which are forbiden in Islam etc. We want to get married, she does not practice Christianity at all bu she wants to walk down the Isle. She is willing to have an Islamic marriage with all proceedures but wants to also have a Christian marriage. I have agreed but I have made clear i wouldnt do any acts to do with Christianity (speak as such from the Bible and commit to any rules regarding Christianity and the religion). All it will be is someone saying things like 'do you want to be his lawfully wedded wife' and vice versa then the 'you may kiss the bride'. Is that aloud and will it work. Also one finL question is about the hijab. Is it compulsry for any of my children to wear the hijab. I will obviously introduce it in the early stages of her life but if she chooses not to wear it do i have to force her or let her be ?
Hi Harris, basically, in the religion of Islam (based on precaution) it is obligatory for a man to refrain from marrying a non-Muslim woman in permanent marriage. So you'd better try to convince your wife-to-be to embrace Islam. Think of what made you become a practicing Muslim after (as you said) you'd been astray. If your reason for coming back is not convincing enough, study and learn more about your religion; learn why Islam is the most complete religion for certain; tell your future mate how all Abrahamic religions say the same thing and the religion is actually only ONE; tell her how embracing Islam would lead us to salvation. (read the articles available on this site to help you with this, like http://salamislam.com/content/unity-all-monotheistic-faiths/1 and http://salamislam.com/content/what-happens-marriage-after-converting-islam/3 and http://salamislam.com/content/it-acceptable-convert-islam-sake-marriage/3) So in a nutshell, according to most Islamic Jurists you cannot marry a Christian unless she embraces Islam. After her conversion you will have an Islamic marriage, hopefully. Then your children will be born Muslim. Hijab is compulsory for your daughters after their puberty but if they decide not to wear it, they are accountable for their deed themselves, not you. You may only help them think twice about their decision.
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