Every day we meet several people at work, in the shops, at the university, in the neighborhood, or at parties and gatherings with whom we communicate and interact. Talking, telling jokes, shaking hands, touching or kissing usually happen in these interactions; but, is a Muslim allowed to do all these with whoever he/she wants? Or is he/she permitted to be exposed to such acts?  These and many similar questions are answered in Islam.

To clarify and form the relations among people, Islam has presented the concept of Maharim and the two categories “Mahram” and “non-Mahram” which sometimes serve as conditions, requirements, or the basis of several Islamic laws. Regarding the Islamic rules on marriage, these categories define who a person can and cannot marry. Likewise, when dealing with the Islamic dress code, i.e., explaining whom one must cover specific parts of a body in front of, the concept of Maharim is required.

Who is Mahram?

One’s Mahram is anyone whom it is permanently forbidden to marry because of blood ties, marriage ties or breastfeeding. However, a woman does not need to cover her hair and put on Hijab when she is in their presence.  A woman's male Mahrams fall into three categories plus her spouse [1]. Mahrams for a man are derived similarly. The Maharim for both, extracted from the verses of the Holy Quran (4:22-23) and (24:31), are listed below [1], and all other people and relatives are considered as non-Maharams.

Categories of Maharim

Permanent or blood Mahrams, with whom one is Mahram through blood ties:
parents, grandparents, and further ancestors;
siblings;
children, grandchildren, and further descendants;
siblings of parents, grandparents, and further ancestors (cousins and their children are not Mahram);
children and further descendants of siblings;
In-law Mahrams, with whom one becomes Mahram through marriage ties:
father-in-law, mother-in-law;
son-in-law, daughter-in-law;
stepfather (mother's husband) if their marriage is consummated, stepmother (father's wife) even if their marriage is not consummated;
stepson (husband's son) even if their marriage is not consummated, stepdaughter (wife's daughter) if their marriage is consummated[i];
Rada or "milk-suckling Mahrams," with whom one becomes Mahram because of being breastfed by her. When a woman breastfeeds an infant that is not her child for a certain amount of time under certain conditions, she becomes the child's rada mother and everything concerning blood Mahrams apply here, such as rada father/mother, rada sister/brother, rada aunt/uncle and so on. In English, these can be referred to as milk-brother, milk-mother, etc. [ii].

Maharim and Marriage

It is forbidden (Haram) to marry Mahrams, but one can marry non-Mahrams who have reached puberty. As explained above, Married couples are Mahram to each other. But unlike other Mahrams, the limitations and rulings on looking and touching do not apply to them; i.e., married couples are the only ones allowed to touch and look at the whole body of one another; even the private parts. 

Maharim and Social Interactions

Regarding social interactions, there are some rules according to the concept of Maharim:

Women and men are both required to keep their gazes downcast and should not stare at the other person when facing non-Mahrams or talk to them. Even Mahrams are not allowed to see certain parts of the body of each other (this will be discussed more under a separate topic “the Islamic rules on looking“);
When talking to non-Mahrams, the tone of voice should be serious, and the dialogues should be direct and as much as necessary. One should also avoid telling jokes and laughing loudly [iii];
Any physical contact (i.e., shaking hands, hugging touching) with non-Mahrams is forbidden (haram), except for curing patients. In this case, if a doctor of the same gender as the patient exists and can cure, then it is forbidden to refer to a non-Mahram doctor.
When being sole in a closed room (where no one else can enter, i.e., locked place), it is forbidden for a non-Mahram man to remain alone in the company of a non-Mahram woman. The Prophet of Islam (PBUH&HP) said: “No man is alone with a woman except that Satan is the third one present ” [2];
It is required (Wajib) to cover specific parts of a body in the presence of a non-Mahram according to the Islamic dress code. For men, this includes from navel to knee. For women, the clothing should cover their hair and body, but covering the face and the hands, from the wrist to the fingers, is not mandated [3].

Notes:
[i] sister-in-law and brother-in-law are not Mahram.

[ii] Refer to your source of emulation (Marja’ Taqlid) for more details and the rulings.

[iii] See the article on modesty.

References: 

1. Mahram and non Mahram
2. S. H. al-Amili, “Wasail al-Shia”, vol. 20, p. 131.
3. A. Aroussi Howayzi, “Tafsir Noor al-Thaqalayn”, vol. 3/589, T. 105.

The mourning tradition of Imam Hussein (AS) is one of the important and effective traditions that has undergone changes throughout history. These days, we see many ceremonies held by different people in various places around the world, in which the fundamental ethics that were the reason for Imam Hussain’s (AS) movement are being neglected. Therefore, it is of utmost importance to take a deep look at how we commemorate the martyrdom of the Imam and identify our mistakes and amend them. 

One of the best ways to achieve authentic methods of commemorating Imam Hussain’s (AS) martyrdom, away from superstitions and distortions of this important tradition, is to study history. In this article, an attempt has been made to outline the manner in which the tradition of mourning for Imam Hussain (AS) was held by the Imam’s progeny (AS) and the goals that those nobles pursued in doing so.

The first commemoration ceremonies

The tradition of commemorating and mourning for Imam Hussain (AS) started from the very day of Ashura when Imam Hussain (AS) was martyred alongside his companions and sons. The first group to begin mourning were the household of the Imam and his companions. As they were taken captive and moved from city to city, they narrated the events of Karbala to people if towns and cities, and the first mourning started from then. 

After the household of the Imam returned to Medina, they never stopped narrating the tragedy of Karbala and the oppression of Yazid’s Army and the reason why Imam Hussain (AS) did not compromise with Yazid. The household of the Imam, especially his sister, Lady Zainab, and His Son Ali (AS), were the first ones to hold commemoration ceremonies and people used to go to their houses to offer their condolences.  [1]

What is the importance of commemorating the martyrdom of Imam Hussain (AS)?

There are numerous narrations recommending us to commemorate and mourn Imam Hussain’s (AS) martyrdom. However, it is important to understand why our leaders and Imams have emphasized on holding mourning ceremonies so much.

The reason, in fact, is not only to cry and have compassion for Imam Hussain (AS) and his companions, although loving the Prophet’s (PBUH&HP) progeny is what we are commanded to do, as Allah orders his messenger to command people about it: 

“… Say, ‘I do not ask you any reward for it except the love of [my] relatives…’” (42: 23) 

Nevertheless, the aim of Imam Hussain (AS) was to set a role model for all human beings who face oppression and injustice, and to teach them the importance of sacrificing all they have in the way of reviving human values. 

Therefore, commemorating his martyrdom and revisiting his goals and values is a great opportunity for people to reassess their life goals, reconsider their lifestyle, and correct their mistakes.
Commemoration of Imam Hussain (AS) at the time of other descendants of the Prophet (PBUH&HP)
Since the socio-political situation at the time of Imam as-Sadiq (AS) provided a platform for promoting the true school of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH&HP), many of our traditions and narration are quoted from him. Hence, there are many narrations and traditions from Imam as-Sadiq (AS) about commemorating and mourning for Imam Hussain (AS). 

It is narrated that from the beginning moments of the day of Ashura in every Muharram, “Imam al-Sadiq (AS) became sad and cried over his noble grandfather, Imam Hussain (AS), and people came to his house from far and near to lament with him and offer condolences. When they stopped crying, the Imam said:

"O people, know that Hussain (AS) is alive and well with his Lord, and he constantly looks at his mourners and their names and their fathers and the place that is available for them in Paradise.” [2]
Imam al-Reza (AS) narrated about his father, Imam Mousa al-Kadhim that “As soon as Muharram came, no one saw a smile on the lips of the Imam and he was always sad until the decade of Ashura passed, and when the tenth day came, this day was the day of utter sorrow and calamity and he used to say: ‘This is the day that my grandfather, Hussain (AS), was killed.’” [3]

Therefore, it is very important to commemorate the martyrdom of Imam Hussain (AS) by narrating the true events that happened in the battle of Karbala. The importance of the commemoration for the Prophet’s progeny (PBUH&HP) is as crucial as keeping Islam alive. They tried to prove the legitimacy of Imam Hussain (AS) and the falsity of the claims of Yazid and the Umayyads, and this shows that the general atmosphere of the Islamic society was so poisonous that even some of the companions of the Imams were unaware of this issue.

However, it is important to hold the ceremonies in a way that does not contradict any of the Islamic rules and ethics since Imam Hussain (AS) mentioned in his will that “I have risen only to make a reform among my grandfather’s people. I want to command the good and forbid the evil.” [4]

No matter how small or big these ceremonies are, they are seen by God and the Imams and rewarded, as long as they follow the goal of Imam Hussain (AS) in reviving the religion of God.

References: 

1. Majlesi, M.B. Bihar al-Anwar, vol. 45, p. 196
2. Tarihi, F. Al-Muntakhab, vol. 2, p. 483
3. Sheikh Sadouq. Al-Amali, Majlis 27
4. Majlesi, M.B. Bihar al-Anwar, vol. 44, p. 329