Family plays an important role in societies and in each individual’s life. People’s personality is mostly formed in their families and the society is formed by the people. Family is a little community in which everything that happens has a direct impact on the whole society. In fact, family is a miniature society. 

In the Islamic culture, the head of the house who raises the children and creates the suitable atmosphere in the house for the members of the family is the mother. So, the ones who create the community are women. Families are so vital for the survival of the society and this accounts for women’s essential role. Therefore, it’s very important for Muslims to understand how Islam sees women. 

The Holy Prophet (PBUH & HP) was born in a society where women were considered less valuable even than animals. Ignorant Arabs would kill their daughters because it was a shame for them to have daughters. But Prophet Muhammad (PBUH & HP), revolutionizing the whole Arab community, saved women from those horrible circumstances. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH & HP) tried so hard to his last breath to save women and the suppressed ones in the society from the Arab’s Ignorance. 

In this regard, Imam Ali (AS) says:

For the sake of Allah, For the sake of Allah be careful about the women and the slaves because your Prophet was talking about them in his last seconds (and he was worried about them) (1)
Prophets’ Behavior with His Wives

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH & HP) says:

Behold! The best of you is the best of you in treating with their families (including their wives) and I am the best of you in that (2).

Men in Islam are responsible for their wives and they are obliged to be kind with them and provide their needs. They are even ordered to endure their wives if they don’t behave well. The Holy Quran says:

Consort with them in an honorable manner; and should you dislike them, maybe you dislike something while Allah invests it with an abundant good (4:19)

One of the most important signs of the prophet’s kindness and love for his wives is his behavior against his first and beloved wife, Lady Khadija (AS). About her, the Prophet (PBUH & HP) says: “Where can I find someone like Khadija?” (3)

The holy Prophet (PBUH & HP) says:

My Brother Gabriel told me about the rights of the women so much that I thought that men even cannot say “fie” on their wives. (4)

The Value of Daughters

In the ages of ignorance, Arabs would bury their daughters alive, because they couldn’t stand the shame that was considered in those times for having daughters. In this regard, the holy Quran says:

When one of them is brought the news of a female [newborn], his face becomes darkened, and he chokes with suppressed agony (16:58)

One of the most important missions of the Messenger (PBUH & HP) was making people aware of the fact that men and women are the same in Allah Almighty’s sight. Due to this mission, Prophet had to emphasize on the value of girls even more than the boys. Imam Reza (AS) says:

The holy Prophet (PBUH & HP) would say: Allah Almighty is more kind to the female than the male. In the Judgement Day, Allah will make happy every man who delights one of his female relatives. (5)

The holy Prophet (PBUH & HP) also says:

Should anyone of you went to a shop and bought presents and brought them to their family, he will be rewarded like someone who helps the needy ones. When he went to his house, he must firstly give their daughter the present because anyone who delights their daughters will be rewarded like someone who has freed a slave (6)

The Prophet Muhammads’ Behavior in his House

The holy Prophet (PBUH & HP) would eat every meal prepared by his wives and he wouldn’t nag or complain about any of them. He would always sit with his family while eating except for the times they had a guest. (7)

In the house, Prophet (PBUH & HP) would darn his torn clothes, milk the sheep, grind wheats, and such chores. He would always say:

Helping wives and doing housework is a way of beneficence for the sake of Allah (8)  

Resources

1. Tohaf al-Oqul, pg.197
2. Sonan an-Nabi, pg.150
3. Kashf al-Qummah, al-Irbeli, vol.1, pg.360 
4. Mustadrak al-Vasail, vol.14, pg.252
5. Vasil ash-Shia, vol.15, pg.104
6. Bihar al-Anvar, vol.104, pg.69
7. Makarim al-Akhlaq, pg.26
8. Bihar al-Anvar, vol.16, pg.227
    

1. How to Treat People

Treat people the way you like to be treated.

Hasan ibn Muhammad Deilami, Aalam al-din fi Sifat al-Moumenin, p.297.

2. Good Temper 

The best of virtues is being good-tempered. 

al-Shaykh al-Saduq, Al-Khisal (The Traits), p.29.

3. Serving Allah in Imam Hasan (AS)'s View

Whoever serves Allah sincerely, Allah will make all the universe serve him/her. 

Warram b. Abi Firas al-Hilli, Tanbih al-khawatir wa nuzhat al-nawazir , vol.2, p.108.

4. Giving Thanks

The one who doesn't give thanks for his/her blessings is a worthless person.

Ibn Shu'ba al-Harrani, Tuhaf al-'uqul, p. 233.

5. The Month of Ramadan

Allah has made the month of Ramadan like a competition for His servants, to compete for His satisfaction with each other through obeying Him. 

Ibn Shu'ba al-Harrani, Tuhaf al-'uqul, p.236.

6. Your Neighbor

Treat your neighbor kindly to be worthy of being a Muslim.

al-'Allama al-Majlisi, Bihar al-anwar, vol.78, p.112.

7. Think and Contemplate

I advise you to think and contemplate since they enliven an insightful person's heart and are the key to wisdom.

Hasan ibn Muhammad Deilami, Aalam al-din fi Sifat al-Moumenin, p.297.

8. Consulting in Imam Hasan (AS)'s Words

Consulting in groups leads you toward success. 

Ibn Shu'ba al-Harrani, Tuhaf al-'uqul, p.233.

9. A True Friend

A true friend is always on your side, whether in hardships or comforts. 

 al-'Allama al-Majlisi, Bihar al-anwar, vol.78, p.114. 

10. The Meaning of Patience according to Imam Hasan (AS) 

Patience means restraining from anger and having yourself under control.

Ibn Shu'ba al-Harrani, Tuhaf al-'uqul, p.227. 

11. Your Creation is Not Vain

O' servants of Allah, beware that Allah had not created you in vain, nor left you on your own. Instead, He had determined the years of your lives and has distributed your sustenance among you. This way, any wise person will realize his/her worth and that he/she won't get more than what has been determined for him/her.

Ibn Shu'ba al-Harrani, Tuhaf al-'uqul, p.234.

12.This Life and the Life that Is to Come

Strive for this life as if you will live forever, and make every effort for the life that is to come as if you will die the next day. 

Muhammad Reza, Ali and Muhammad Hakimi, Al-Hayat (Life), vol.4, p.62.

13. A Reflection on this World by Imam Hasan (AS)

This world is the dwelling of pain and hardship, and whatever rests here is doomed to mortality. Allah had informed us of this world's workings to learn our lessons from it. He has warned us beforehand so that no excuse will remain at the end for us. Therefore, be pious in dealing with what is temporal (i.e., this world) and seek what is eternal (the afterlife). 

Muhammad b. 'Ali b. Shahrashub, Manāqib Āl Abī Ṭālib, vol.4, p.31. 

14. The Quran

Verily, the lights of guidance in this Quran leads toward prosperity. This Quran heals hearts and souls. 

al-'Allama al-Majlisi, Bihar al-anwar, vol.75, p.11.

15. The Right and Wrong

There is a thin line between what is right and wrong; what you see with your own eyes is the right thing, and what you hear or is told about might be wrong. 

Ibn Shu'ba al-Harrani, Tuhaf al-'uqul, p.229.

16. Be Grateful

Being grateful for the blessings and being patient in hardships, are the virtues to which you can't find any negative side. 

Ibn Shu'ba al-Harrani, Tuhaf al-'uqul, p.234.

17. Your Religion 

Verily, people are slaves to this world and its wealth and make their religion a means of reaching their (worldly) purposes and do whatever it takes to build an ideal life. Therefore, when faced with a trial, few will adhere to their religions.

Qadi Nur Allah Shushtari, Ihqaq al-haqq, vol.11, p.234.

18. Know Allah

Whoever knows Allah, will fall in love with Him. 

Warram b. Abi Firas al-Hilli, Tanbih al-khawatir wa nuzhat al-nawazir, vol.1, p.52. 

19. The Blessings 

The blessings are unappreciated as long as they are at hand, yet their worth will be appreciated as soon as they are lost.

al-'Allama al-Majlisi, Bihar al-anwar, vol.78, p.115.

20. Meanness 

Meanness is considering what you own as the reason for your honor, and what you give away as waste. 

Ibn Shu'ba al-Harrani, Tuhaf al-'uqul, p.225.

 21. Poverty 

Poverty is the greed that is not satisfied with anything.

 Ibn Shu'ba al-Harrani, Tuhaf al-'uqul, pp.225&226.

22. Ponder as Imam Hasan (AS) Says

I advise you to piety and constant pondering since thinking is the root of all virtues.

Warram b. Abi Firas al-Hilli, Tanbih al-khawatir wa nuzhat al-nawazir, vol.1, p.52.

23. The Ability to Supplicate

When Allah blesses someone with the ability to supplicate to Him, He surely gives his/her prayers the chance of being granted. 

 al-'Allama al-Majlisi, Bihar al-anwar, vol.78, p.113.

24. An Unnecessary Burden 

Expressing your opinion on the subject, which is not related to you, puts an unnecessary burden on your shoulders.

Ibn Shu'ba al-Harrani, Tuhaf al-'uqul, p.226.

25. The Sign of Abasement

Being afraid of honesty and expressing the truth is a sign of abasement.

Ibn Shu'ba al-Harrani, Tuhaf al-'uqul, p.226.

26. Three Destructive Things in Imam Hasan (AS)'s Words

There are three things that bring destruction to people; pride, greed, and envy. 

al-'Allama al-Majlisi, Bihar al-anwar, vol.78, p.111. 

27. The Best Chance to Forgive

The best chance for a benevolent person to forgive a guilty one is when there is no way out for the latter.

 Hasan ibn Muhammad Deilami, Aalam al-din fi Sifat al-Moumenin, p.297.

28. The Spirit of Generosity

Whoever counts the number of his/her charities, ruins his/her spirit of generosity. 

al-'Allama al-Majlisi, Bihar al-anwar, vol.78, p.113.

29. The Eyes and the Ears

The most insightful eyes are the ones that are fixed only on the goodness and virtues, and the most receptive ears are the ones who listen to advice and make use of them.

 al-'Allama al-Majlisi, Bihar al-anwar, vol.78, p.109.

30. Silence, Recommended by Imam Hasan (AS)

At times, silence is a better companion, even if you are a perfect speaker.

 al-Shaykh al-Saduq, Ma'ani l-Akhbar, section no.401. Hadith no. 62. 

31. The Calamities 

The calamities are the keys to blessings and rewards. 

Hasan ibn Muhammad Deilami, Aalam al-din fi Sifat al-Moumenin, p.297.

32. Worshiping Allah

Whoever seeks to worship [Allah] sincerely, should purify him/herself for this purpose. 

Ibn Shu'ba al-Harrani, Tuhaf al-'uqul, p.236.

33. A Precious Wealth 

No wealth is more precious than wisdom.

 Baha' al-Din 'Ali b. 'Isa al-Irbili, Kashf al-ghumma fi ma'rifat al-a'imma, vol.2, p.198.

34. Wisdom

Treating people good-manneredly is a crucial part of wisdom. 

al-'Allama al-Majlisi, Bihar al-anwar, vol.78, p.111.

35. Teach 

Teach your knowledge to others and learn what others know; this way, you will both improve your own knowledge and learn what you didn't know about.

 Baha' al-Din 'Ali b. 'Isa al-Irbili, Kashf al-ghumma fi ma'rifat al-a'imma, vol.2, p.197.

36. Food for Thought

I wonder how you would think about the food for your body and don't contemplate on the food for your thought? You restrain from eating what is harmful to your body, but fill your mind and soul with what ruins them. 

al-'Allama al-Majlisi, Bihar al-anwar, vol.1, p.218. 

37. Anger

Your [real] thoughts will be revealed in your anger. 

al-'Allama al-Majlisi, Bihar al-anwar, vol.78., p.113.

38. Allah's Satisfaction

I guarantee that Allah will grant the prayers of the one whose only purpose is Allah's satisfaction. 

al-'Allama al-Majlisi, Bihar al-anwar, vol.43. , p.351.

39. Trust Allah

Whoever trusts Allah's best intention,  will only desire what Allah chooses for him/her. 

al-'Allama al-Majlisi, Bihar al-anwar, vol.78., p.106.

40. Alms-Tax

Giving alms-tax (Zakat) does not reduce your wealth.

al-'Allama al-Majlisi, Bihar al-anwar, vol.96., p.23.